*Those* Moments

23 Sep

You know the moments I’m talking about. They reaffirm that you are doing just what you should be doing with your life. Or remind you that yes, this person really loves you. Or that your family really is kick-ass, hands-down the best family out there. I’ve been noticing these moments more and more as I reflect on my last 25 years and prepare for the 26th one that’s right around the corner. Here are a few of *those* moments that have really stood out to me over the last few weeks…

* Small Mexican restaurant. Me. Irish. The couple that set us up. Beer, salsa, tortilla chips. Laughter. Looking over at Irish and he winks. And then he kisses me on the cheek and he held my hand under the table. It was one of those moments where everything just felt right. Sometimes the craziness of the world can really interrupt the flow of a relationship so these moments where it’s just natural, normal and great? Well, they are really special to me.

* It’s not often that I get a day out of the office to attend client meetings but when the client has just renewed three contracts with us, I get to go to the meetings. This particular meeting took us to a town only 30 minutes away from where my brother is attending school so my boss (my dad!) and I met up with him for a late lunch at a very local, very Greek, very awesome restaurant. We were sitting on the patio chatting about politics, healthcare, college girls, bumble bees and who knows what else (all the while sending picture texts to Darling so she could see photos of “her boys” together) and I had that ah-ha moment. I felt blessed. I felt loved. I felt honored that my 21 year-old brother thinks it is cool (or at least humors us) and wants to spend time with us. This is my family and the older I get, the cooler they get. Funny how that works.

* I’ve been living at home for almost three (!) months now. There have been a few adjustments here and there but surpsingly no rough patches. It’s amazing to me how quickly I’ve adjusted to living with my parents again. I don’t feel like a 25 (almost 26!) year-old loser. In fact, I feel more responsible because I’m saving money, paying off (and not using) my credit cards, contributing to some of the daily chores around the house, and feel stable. I loved living in apartments but it always seemed semi-permanent. I love staying with Irish but due to some reservations on his family’s side that can’t be permanent (at least not yet), for awhile. I was really quite nervous about the move but on Sunday night, I had one of *those* moments where I realized I had done the right thing. I spent most of the day with Irish wandering in and out of bookstores, enjoy lunch and just having fun and when I got home my parents and I had a pizza party complete with a girlie movie. (My dad consented to watching Sweet Home Alabama with us.) We were all feeling the Sunday Evening Blahs and so I offered to make us a pot of tea. Hanging with my parents, the dogs, getting play-by-play updates on the Cards game from Irish and sharing a pot of tea brought tears to my eyes.

*This here blog started out over four years ago as a place for me to sob via the internet. No, seriously. I went through a horrible break-up and I boohooed my feelings and thoughts all over my blog for a good six months. After that I started making “blog friends.” In the last year I’ve opened myself up to meeting “blog friends,” calling them and sending them real mail. I remember when sharing your address or phone number with people you’ve met online was totally batshit crazy but now not so much. I went from calling people “blog friends,” to “my real life friends.” In the last few months several of those bonds have grown even stronger thanks to GChats, texts, phone calls, emails  and girls’ nights for those that live close to me. Not to mention the just knowing that there is a huge support group of women (and  men) out there if I ever need them. It doesn’t feel funny to me that some of my best friends are people I met on the internet. It actually feels pretty damn awesome.

So, tell me, what are some of *those* moments for you recently? What kind of things do you notice more as a birthday appears?


18 Responses to “*Those* Moments”

  1. SoMi's Nilsa September 23, 2009 at 3:31 pm #

    Once I hit 30-something, I no longer paid attention to those moments leading up to my birthday (because I’d rather forget my birthday). But, recently, some of those moments include glances, kisses and hand holding that I still get from Sweets. SoMi curling up with me in bed when she gets cold. Looking at our redefined condo and realizing this is *our* home. Oh yeah and getting excited to share said home with certain friends-made-over-the-internet. =)

  2. mandy September 23, 2009 at 3:39 pm #

    I had a moment recently, I had just gotten off the phone after a great, honest chat with a friend. I thought how a year ago I didn’t even know said friend and now I consider her one of my nearest and dearest. We met through our blogs, more specifically, though a Blog Valentine thing. When I opened the package she sent, my life changed for the better just by knowing her. =)

  3. Lisa D September 23, 2009 at 3:52 pm #

    I have these moments more and more these days. I will find myself smiling and appreciating the little things like getting a fantastic latte from Starbucks.

    It is fun to have those pivotal moments that re-affirm that you are exactly where you should. I remember a moment about 4 months after my break up back in 2008. I was having lunch with girlfriends, they were laughing hysterically at some story, and I thought to myself – this is so much better than being with Ryan.

    You and Irish sound so adorable together. A kiss in the cheek or having your hand held is priceless. Ahh, so happy for you! :)

  4. habbala September 23, 2009 at 4:01 pm #

    So wonderful. I know exactly what you’re talking about!!! There are those moments that you get shocked by just by them being normal. And you try to remember them SO hard so that you don’t forget. It’s one of the reasons I like to blog.

    I cannot wait to be over blogging about break-up stuff and to get onto the good stuff. And I am so glad we’re friends because I know that whenever I am having a rough time I had support from you. <3

  5. Irish September 23, 2009 at 4:09 pm #

    She gets mad at me when we are in public, but I can’t seem to keep my hands off of her.
    I sometimes have to steal my smooches but I still get ’em!

  6. Ev`Yan || apricot tea. September 23, 2009 at 4:48 pm #

    This was really neat, Nora. I especially like #1. I can only imagine how wonderful you felt. I love moments like that!

  7. bellerenee September 23, 2009 at 4:49 pm #

    Oh my gosh, Irish’s comment above me? Are you kidding? SO CUTE. Can’t wait to meet him (and the pup!) this weekend!

    The last part about blog/real life friends made my day. My sentiments EXACTLY. Love you!

  8. Liz September 23, 2009 at 5:19 pm #

    I think blog friends are awesome because here you are, spiling your guts all over the Internet to strangers, and they still like you BECAUSE you’re YOU! So when those freaders turn into real-life friends, you know they won’t judge you because they already know you better than most. And they love you just the way you are. :)

  9. Kathleen September 23, 2009 at 5:39 pm #

    Aww, I love this! It makes me happy to see other people happy. :)

    I have moments like this frequently, especially with my husband and our families. We all live nearby, go to the same church, and get together frequently for random things. I’m so grateful for my life!

  10. Amber from Girl with the Red Hair September 23, 2009 at 8:17 pm #

    Aww, Nora, your blog makes me happy and also really miss my family and Eric!

    Those moments are precious and we should definitely cherish each and every one of them!

  11. Jessica September 23, 2009 at 9:09 pm #

    Awww what wonderful post. I’m so glad you came to Vegas so we could meet and I could start reading your blog and get to know you better!!

  12. Little Miss Obsessive September 23, 2009 at 10:42 pm #

    I LOVE this post! Especially the first moment you talked about between you and Irish… so sweet. And the one about blogging – I know exactly what you mean. :)

  13. Andhari September 24, 2009 at 3:02 am #

    Your life is really beautiful with all the loved ones and friends that are growing to spend time together with :) reading these make me happy.

    Well since I’m about to turn 22 in a day ( LOL ), I realize that even in this age when I feel really lonely a lot I still have a group of people who care for me. They may not always be there for me like how girlfriends used to be in high school but at least they do check up on me despite how busy they are. And that’s what matters.

  14. Kyla Roma September 24, 2009 at 8:30 am #

    Aw I’m so happy that you’re so happy! I can’t believe that it’s been 3 months already, and I love that you are having such a good time living with your family. I would love to have had that and I hope that one day when I have a 25 turning 26 year old they feel the same way you do about your family =)

  15. Erin September 24, 2009 at 6:24 pm #

    I love this. And I love those moments. And I love blog friends becoming real life friends. And I love that I get to see you this weekend!

  16. katelin September 24, 2009 at 6:45 pm #

    um your first moment just made my heart melt a little bit, so incredibly sweet.

    love this whole post.

  17. Margarita September 24, 2009 at 9:14 pm #

    What a sweet post! An adorable read, I loved it! I have moments like those at times, and sometimes you don’t even realise them happening but other times it just strikes you.

    The other day Princess was sitting on J’s lap and they were just messing around and being silly, and she just looked SO big. And it was such a cute father daughter moment…. I dunno, we’re like a family and it’s odd to say that, but it’s true!

  18. mel September 28, 2009 at 12:37 am #


    this is such a nice little post….and sometimes…those moments happen just when you need them the most. when you need a reminder that your life is fantastic!

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